Duh, you might think.
But when you switch into #lutheranliturgicalauto-pilot and are wondering why the Alleluia response hasn't started, it's because you're the one at the keys. That music doesn't just play it self.
The elephant in the room... So I've written about this subject before . As it turns out, I could probably write an entire book about why church is so hard when your father dies. There are so many reasons. Pretty much everything about it is ruined. So we will start with the elephant in the room. Part of why church is hard is because interacting with my church family is really hard. Why? The elephant in the room. Church is awkward. Every interaction since he died (and even while he was sick) puts the burden on me. "How are you?" Do I bring it up? Do I keep bringing it up? Do I ignore the grief thing and just say I'm great? How do I answer this question? It's a catch 22. If I keep bringing up the grief, people are likely to grow distant. Grief is a hard burden to watch someone else go through. You can only go through so much. Heck, I can only go through so much. Only I don't have a choice in the matter... If I did, I'd take a break too. So, if...
Remember, no Alleluias during Lent.
ReplyDeleteDepends on the church! It gets really confusing when you travel during Lent. Some churches do the farewell to Alleluias, others don't. So sometimes I attend one church the first Sunday that does the farewell, and then the rest of Lent I'm at churches that did not and I'm awkwardly singing Alleluias after ceremonially removing them.
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