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Rule 12: Play for other churches

... they said. "It will be fun," they said.

I'm kidding. It really is fun to offer to play for the smaller churches to which you travel.


  1. The organist (there's usually only one) is extremely appreciative of the break.
  2. The congregation appreciates the variety.
  3. You can break out all your old standards that this crowd has never heard you play before.
  4. There's nothing more fun than trying to figure out a new piano, new organ, new pastor, and new congregation's rhythm. On vacation. 

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