Rule 7: "Time Permitting" doesn't mean communion will be short

While we are on the subject of Communion (See Rule 6), when the Pastor says, "We will sing the following hymns as time permits," it means nothing.

It might sound like we are expecting to NOT get to all the hymns because the Lord's Supper will go quickly.

But you would be wrong.
So plan on needing a few minutes of extra music. And then double it. Just to be safe.

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